Thoughts

Monogamy can be a challenge to others because people around the world gives negative and funny opinions about it. More and more, we are hearing scientific reports claiming that cheating may be in our DNA.

Being in a committed, healthy relationship can be great, but it can also come with some hurdles you have to overcome.

We are HUMAN, and it is highly likely we’re going to find other people attractive –people that aren’t our partner.

I think that’s how we should deal with that attraction that’s important.

How will you deal with it?

Simple! DO NOT NURTURE THEM! And that crushes or attraction will pass.

DO NOT FANTASISE. Try not to feed the crush. Do not fantasise, do not play scenarios in your head. Don’t give it energy to grow.

DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM IT. I know someone who’s in a 15-year relationship and I’ve talked to her and had an honest response. “I met my significant other when I was 16 years old, so I’ve gone through big changes during our time together and I’ve had crushes in between. But it never became bothersome for me and for my partner because I share it to him and I never nurture it.

Be honest with yourself and distance yourself from that person.

Nothing good comes from keeping a crush around. Being a mature adult to me is being able to see compatibility from an objective POV, and you’re really screwing up if you are not FOCUS with your relationship.

But if you keep on entertaining that feeling of attraction for someone outside your relationship, it is because there is a desire within you that requires attention.

There are attractive people everywhere in my world but when you are 100% focused on who you are becoming and who you have in your life then it’s not a question at all.