Thoughts

Yes, I admit I make people cry. (but not in a bad way that I hurt them)

Please hear me out before you jump the gun and put me into an armbar.

I acknowledge this with myself and with the connection I give to people.

Today, I finally got some self-care time (thank you mum for the gift) so I went to the salon and got my hair done. Supposedly, it is just a haircut but turned out to be more.

This new hairdresser wanted to transform me because my hair needed life as they said…

While they were doing my hair, I am on the phone talking to one of my clients who had lots of questions about breakups and how to move on.

I know that my hairdresser and her assistant unintentionally heard me and my client’s conversation. How can they not? I was loud… talking above the hairdryer.

So, they asked me what do I do? We have been together for a few hours now.

Because my hairdresser knows very  little English, her assistant was translating it to her.

 
Now some of you may remember that I am someone who respects you, but when I go into my coaching mindset – I lay it all out black and blue and I don’t sugar coat things. I am no longer your friend. I am your coach.

I literally can put you in a headlock – metaphorically speaking in a spiritual sense.

My mum will always tell me that I should learn to sugarcoat things.

Mmmm… NO!!! That is not me and I will say things to trigger your emotion, to question your belief, and to push the status quo.

Near the end of getting my hair done, I thought I share why I do what I do and my story so they have context. My hairdresser did say she wanted to fall in love during the conversation.

In less than three minutes in, my hairdresser starts balling her eyes out and I immediately apologises if I had said something wrong and said “I didn’t mean to make you cry” in so little words and hoping she understood me.

She apologies for crying and I said, “Cry it all out”.

If her boss was here, I think he would have been beside himself.

I immediately knew instantly she was being healed and I am not saying she is 100% healed but these things are steppingstones towards our divine path.

I said to her, “now you have experienced what I do, I make people cry” and we both burst out laughing hysterically.

When you carry this pain inside for so long – you either don’t know how to deal with it or you let it out and still don’t know how to heal yourself.

With me – your head sinks into your heart and that’s where the magic happens allowing a space of no judgment and pure love.

As a result, not only I got my hair transformed, but she also started to see how divinely beautiful she was that day and how love plays such a big role in our life.

We don’t know what’s going on in people’s lives, whether it’s your client sitting in the hot seat, the person on the plane next to you, the person who is at the dinner table alone, or a stranger walking down the street.

In this instance, it was my hairdresser.

Humans judge in the first 3 seconds of meeting someone.

So, I ask you to treat everyone that you meet as if they were your friend.

If you don’t lower your guard, the only pain you will be causing is yourself.

May the angels look after her on her journey.

Phuong Phan