Thoughts

In a dictionary, cheating generally describes various actions designated to subvert rules in order to obtain unfair advantages.

And when we add emotions with this description? The anxiety we can experience from being cheated on tends to have physical symptoms that manifest such as migraines, stomachaches, IBS, nausea, loss of appetite or overeating.

Let’s talk about Logan and Rachel on this scene of Suits.
They dated a while back, and Rachel is currently with Mike; the love of her life.
But when Logan and Rachel need to work together, at first, her walls are so right up and she keep pushing Logan away but through the conversation, she started to relax.

Can you see her gesture? She is relaxed –the way she sits, her arms are relaxed, chest is actually open. This body language makes you open for communication, she feels safer being around Logan.
Remember how folding arms can make us look uninterested with the other person talking or we do not want to build a connection with the person.

But for Rachel, when she started to be relaxed around Logan, it might be a go signal for Logan…that they want the same thing. Which is to get back together!
And the right thing Rachel should have done is? To step back and not let her personal life affect or mix with her professional / business life.
Logan feels like it is okay to bring back all the memories and to compliment her because she let her guard down…so much!

And the flirtation begins. Oh no!

Have you watched the 5-year engagement movie starring Emily Blunt and Jason Segel? When Emily told her soon to be husband that her boss kissed her. This is what Jason told her “Yes he may have been the one who kissed you. But there is a reason that he felt like that was an option”
And he is absolutely right!

Now, if you are the person who made that mistake once, remember to own your mistake but tell yourself that you are a great person who had a not so great moment. Just like what Donna told Rachel.

At that scene, Rachel has emotions kept that has not been dealt with but these are all could have avoided.
The next question you might have in your mind is “When should I tell him or her?”
And the answer is there is no right time… make time, right! Because if you keep on keeping this secret, you will eventually crack.

Acknowledge your mistake and do not keep it as a secret –even if you ”did not” kiss back or even if you kissed back but “it meant nothing and you were just really tempted”
Confess to your partner.

Do not talk it out in public. You guys should go home, sit down… listen to each other. Confess everything.
Because during a heated discussion, harsh words will be thrown and there is no way you could stop because your brain is at the beast fight mode. Scared mode. Your brain is running 80 miles per hour. Walls are up again and you will be blocking and removing people away from you.

It is best to hear the information and walk away. There’s always 2 sides of the story and it is best to hear the full story instead of jumping into the conclusion and reacting. Because reacting could not solve anything.

The important thing is to confess it, and try to fix it. Tell the truth and try to fix it.
As you can see, Rachel confesses everything and Mike is sitting and patiently listening.
And these is how you can resolve any discussions, disputes in a relationship is to hear the person out.

My verdict?

She love Mike and she DID have an attraction to Logan. She might have made a mistake, but they both wanted to try and fix it.